Coming abroad alone. Three words: scary, exciting, unforgettable.
After spending five months studying in London, I want to share why I believe going abroad solo is one of the most rewarding decisions you can make. From the unexpected struggles to the small victories, here’s everything I wish I knew — and why I wouldn’t change a thing.
Choosing London Over Comfort
Before arriving, I had this idea that I’d meet tons of like-minded people who were also brave enough to venture out on their own. And while that’s partly true, the reality is that most people I’ve met came abroad already knowing someone, if not a whole group of friends.
So why did I choose to come alone?
Simple. London excited me. It made me curious. I knew I’d want to explore it fully, and that even if I had to do it alone, it would be worth it. A lot of my friends chose Barcelona. It was tempting to follow them — and yes, it was tough knowing they’d all be together — but deep down, I knew I belonged in London. And now, looking back, it was the best decision I could have made.
What I Wish I Knew Before Coming
There are definitely a few things I wish someone had told me before I packed my bags.
- Friend groups form fast — and often before you even land.
People tend to stick with what’s familiar, especially in unfamiliar places. That can make breaking into social circles tricky at first. - It’s okay not to meet everyone right away.
You might feel pressure to make a million friends immediately, but just like at home, meaningful friendships take time. Give yourself that time. - You don’t need to “see it all” in your first week.
Trust me, you won’t — and that’s okay. Let go of the pressure to cram everything in. Soak it all in at your own pace. It just gives you another reason to come back one day.
How I Built My Life Abroad
So, how did I create a fulfilling experience in a foreign city all on my own? A few key things helped:
1. Reach Out Before You Arrive
This might be my biggest piece of advice: be proactive. Before arriving in London, I found someone on social media who was also studying there. I sent a simple message:
“Hey! I saw you’re going to London — I’ll be there too. Would love to grab a coffee sometime if you’re ever free.”
That message turned into a lifelong friendship. She became my travel partner and closest friend abroad. Don’t be afraid to make that first move — the worst that can happen is no response.
2. Say Hello — Everywhere
Whether I was in a coffee shop, a boutique, or sitting solo at a restaurant bar, I made a point to introduce myself. I’d strike up conversations with the person next to me, and more often than not, those moments turned into something memorable. Sometimes, even dessert plans with a new friend.
3. Lead With a Smile
It sounds cliché, but being approachable matters. A smile goes a long way. People are often just as nervous or curious as you are. Be open — you never know who you’ll meet.
Final Thoughts
If you’re considering going abroad alone, I hope this post is your sign to do it.
Yes, it can feel lonely at times. Yes, you’ll be pushed out of your comfort zone. But in those moments, you’ll learn more about yourself than you ever thought possible. You’ll become more independent, more open, and more confident.
This chapter of our lives is the perfect time to truly get to know ourselves — to be alone with our thoughts, to discover new cities and new friendships, and to find magic in the unexpected.